September 3, 2014

You’re Getting a Divorce. Now What? Part One.

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Panic! Just kidding. Well, you can panic a little. I know I did. I recently received a very heartfelt and warming email from a friend who encouraged me to write about the new chapter in our life. She told me other women will appreciate my openness—even those who are not in the same situation. If I can encourage just one person that there is life and hope after divorce, this blog post will be all the worth while! 

After exhausting all resources a divorce is happening whether you want it or not. Here are a few steps I took. Every new day is a learning lesson and time moves slowly when you are in the midst of it all. Don’t give up hope—someone has a better plan for your life and it takes actions on your part to make this happen.

  • Hire a Lawyer. Hire someone based on referrals that will protect you and your children. Mediators are great for those of you who are childless and where everything is fair and amicable. Be smart and go with your instinct. Only you know what is best for your family.
  • If there was a third party involved, do not contact the other person. Only send her a message if it will truly help you move on with your divorce. Although it will only give them ammo to say, “See, look at how crazy she is!” This person entered into relations with a married man and family. Do you think they are going to have a come to God moment and realize what they did was wrong? Most likely not. They will have to live with their wrong doings and that is enough in my opinion. Your revenge is moving on and leading a happy healthy life!
  • Start building a different kind of relationship with your ex. I had to put aside our actual married relationship and focus on being parents while communicating for Mia. You are going to see this person every other weekend, month, or year if they choose to be in your child’s life. It took some time to get to this point; at first I couldn’t even imagine seeing him again. I hope with time, it will evolve into a friendship.
  • Exercise and eat healthy. To quote Elle from Legally Blonde, “exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy.” I joined CorePower yoga and it seriously changed my life. The breathing techniques alone made me push through some hard times. The toning and losing a few inches were an added bonus.
  • If you are a Stay-At-Home Mom find a job! No job is too small. I started working a few nights as a hostess at a nearby steakhouse. It was one of the best decisions during my divorce. I met some amazing people and it gave me the confidence to get back into the working world.

Stay tuned for Part Two! Please comment if you have any advice or tips on getting through the first year of a divorce, separation, or breakup! xx

July 25, 2014

Chicken and Shrimp Tostadas

 
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Tostadas are something I make quite often. They are such a simple and quick dinner or lunch using whole and fresh ingredients. I buy tostada shells from the grocery store (which are like a flat crunchy taco shell).

Ingredients:
  • Refried beans
  • Plain Greek yogurt or sour cream
  •  Avocados
  •  Corn
  •  Diced tomatoes
  • Protein like shrimp or shredded chicken
  • Cheese (optional)

Instructions:

1.       Layer the refried beans on the tostada
 
2.       Layer the Greek yogurt or sour cream
 
3.       Layer your choice of protein
 
4.       Top with tomatoes, corn, avocado, cheese, hot sauce, salsa—anything that you have!

Enjoy! 


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July 21, 2014

Hi Blog World...It's Been A While!

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It’s been a while since my last post, mainly because I didn’t feel like blogging and I didn’t have anything positive to blog about. I notice people on Instagram, Facebook, in all social media avenues post when they are at their happiest. If you are like me, you fall off when times are not so happy. Now that the proverbial dust has settled a little and each day I am feeling like myself again, I wanted to come back to a place where I enjoyed most—my blog! I thought about erasing posts, erasing memories, but I didn’t. I knew I would regret it. My friend Katie sent such an encouraging note a few months back….
Those moments are still, and will always be real - Mia being born, standing at the alter...all of that. You can smile at those moments still and miss what once was but do not think it was a lie...because it wasn't, I was there with you. Smile and think of those moments, but also let those memories give you the strength to take the next steps.”
And next steps we did. I'm so excited to share some of my passions I have found over the past 8 months and updates on Mia and our life together. Mia’s grandmother wrote, "30 becomes you" on my 30th birthday card. She was so right and I didn’t even know it at the time…

November 8, 2013

Our Big Move

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I haven't posted in quite a while as some of you know we have moved from Pasadena, CA to Denver, CO. It has been such a busy time between packing, saying goodbye to friends, and road tripping! Such a bittersweet time, but the best for our family. Mike was offered an opportunity with his company we just couldn’t pass up. In the blink of an eye—we relocated to Denver. We drove up the California coast and made stops at Monterey, Berkley, Yosemite National Park, Utah, and Vail. I was VERY skeptical about driving instead of flying. I have absolutely no regrets. We saw some amazing areas of our country I would have otherwise never seen. Mia did fantastic and slept so well in the car and at hotels.

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{games, movies, coloring, and snacks (lots and lots) are the keys to a happy toddler in the car}

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{Yosemite was so magical—I would actually think of camping overnight for a few days just to explore more!}

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{playing in the leaves at the Berkley campus while visiting cousins}

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{Monterey Wharf and Aquarium}

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{Vail}

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{finally in Denver at her grandma Mimi’s}

We are settling in and I really love the weather here. One day it is cloudy and cold, the next sunny but sweater weather. Such a nice change from the Pasadena heat. I do have moments where I miss our routine and all the friends we would see everyday, but the people here are really nice and I have met a few moms from the park or dance class (yes Mia’s first tap class!) Mike is loving his new gig and we both love being around family. So far, not a shabby place to be!

October 14, 2013

Splurge | Save: Booties

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1 / 2 / 3 / 4 / 5 (I love these!) / 6 (on sale and great reviews)
 
Booties are a must on my list for this fall and winter. I want a sturdy shoe that I can wear chasing the toddler around. The Rag and Bone’s are my favorite, but not the price tag. I have rounded up some of my favorite casual and dressy styles at more reasonable prices. Enjoy!
 
If you go to the Sole Society website, you can sign up for their emails and receive 20% off your order of $100 or more! (this is not sponsored in any way)
 
Linking up:

October 11, 2013

Be Positive in the Morning

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This is a great quote I found on Pinterest. Just like making your bed in the morning, having positive thoughts  can change your day for the better and foster productivity. I truly believe good things come to those people who are positive in life. Mia woke at 6 a.m. this morning and instead of complaining, I thought of how much laundry I could accomplish in the wee morning hours!

Cheers to a happy and positive weekend!

October 10, 2013

Nordstrom Beauty Trend Show

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We had so much fun at the Nordstrom Beauty Trend Show event last weekend. We watched a beauty fashion show and booked appointments for facials and makeup. Afterward we had lunch at the café. It was the perfect girl’s morning! Below are two standout products from the event we tried for the first time. I learned so much about skincare from the show and plan to write a post soon on my favorite products and routine.

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Amore Pacific Eye Gel

I have been using this eye gel for a week now (I received a bunch of samples) and my dryness/flakiness has completely gone away. My under eye concealer now goes on smoothly.

Clarisonic review

Mia Clarisonic

We tried this out at the event and it was amazing! My face felt so clean and tight afterward. It definitely lived up to its hype.

Have you tried out any new beauty product's recently? Do you like the Clarisonic? I am contemplating the high price tag, but think it’s worth it! I never want to scrimp on skincare.